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Is it uncommon to cum multiple times as a guy?

This is not measured in a number.
Ignore society trying to tell you whatever.
If you don't keep track or try to last long (or short), you will last the right amount of time to satisfy you and your girl. The time will change depending on the common mood. Let it happen and live in the moment. Everything else will fall into place.

Slightly longer than your partner can last (but only slightly).
Ideally both of you should cum at the same time, no matter how long that takes, 5, 10, or 60 minutes.
It's taken alot of work, but I've gone from about 5 minutes to around 15 (30 on a good day) during moderately rigorous PIV. This is usually enough to get my SO through one good orgasm, and sometimes into more.

As long as he needs to. That doesn't necessarily mean you can't come. But if you do, you've got other ways to finish her off.

I think 5 minutes or so is pretty usual. It all depends on what sex we are talking about and with whom. Often when we talk about guys lasting longer it's in reference to penis in vagina sex.
Penis in vagina sex is normally more pleasurable for the penis than the vagina. This is because the most sensitive part of the vulva (the clitoris) isn't getting direct stimulation. Imagine having sex where the most sensitive bit of your penis isn't getting direct stimulation - that's how PiV feels for most women.
So guys are asked to last longer purely because that kind of sex is less hot for the vagina than the penis. However, men and women can orgasm in roughly the same time if they masturbate. In which case it matters a lot less how quickly it takes someone to orgasm.
Does this make sense?
That said, through practising breathing exercises and masturbation you can learn to both prolong sex by being able to either 'edge' (get near to coming but not come) or to have more than one orgasm before ejaculating (multiple orgasms).

I usually last 1 minute in bed the first time. My penis stays hard until my pants are back on and we are done. I don't usually come again until much later. Tis a gift.

it depends. theres times where one can only last a good 2 min or times you can last 45+ it just depends on how much sex you have how often you had it and how much foreplay was put in

You will learn better control the more you do it; make sure you are focusing on the girl and how to please her more than you are focusing on yourself. You are already gonna have a good time; that is a given.
Tip: Try imagining things from her perspective. Learn some shit about the female anatomy. Focusing on her will distract your brain just enough to keep you in the game, and pleasing the woman has a LOT of benefits. You get it more because she wants it more. She talks to her friends. The friends talk to thier friends...you get the picture, I'm sure. Also, try jerking it a bit more often. Not so much that you cant perform, but not so littlr that you are the 3 minute wonder. If you know you are getting some later, try to time it 3-4 hours beforehand.

The absolute bottom line is that as you have (safe) sex with more partners, you will find that how long you last will vary from partner to partner and even day to day. Many factors can and do influence how long you last, including but not limited to how wet your partner is/how much lube you use, natural control you learn, type of protection used (e.g. condoms), your own mental state (tired, distracted, etc) as well as how ou masturbate, (deathgrip, speed, frequency, etc).
TL;DR: lots of stuff affects How quickly you cum, learn your triggers and how to control them.

With practice,kegels, masturbation, and mindfulness i can often go anywhere from 20 min-60 min not including foreplay. The key is changing it up

It's normal to last that long when you're starting off. The more sex you have as you age the more your penis would get used to the feeling of sex to a certain degree. But you shouldn't worry about lasting long. Either you can do lots of foreplay before hand or after sex if she hasn't had an orgasm (its ok if she doesn't most women require clitoris stimuli to achieve orgasm). You can just go down on her after you cum and finish her off. I usually last 5-10 minutes. Gf and I both love fore play so that usually takes about 30-20mins. By the time the fore play is over the 5-10 minutes is usually what it takes for her to have a body shaking orgasm that leads to a post-sex comma/cuddle fest.

I have trouble finishing in under an hour. It's not that i'm not turned on by my gf. I don't know why, but i can tell you it's not always a treat. Sometimes you just want a quickie in the shower. Just as others have said, the most important thing is if your partner is happy with what he or she gets.

It all depends who I'm with and what they are into. I've been with girls who want it hard and fast and I'm only good for maybe 2 minutes. Girls who like it slow, with foreplay mixed in (i'll take it out and go down on her to buy me time, etc.,) has lasted for up to an hour and longer. Also, when I smoke pot, it seems to allow me to last longer but do not start just to last longer. It all depends on your partner as well. I've wanted to make good first impressions with girls when we've had sex the first time and last a while only for them to tell me they are sore and we need to stop.

M22 here and I have found that as I have gotten older and been with more girls I am able to hold it longer and longer and I pretty much have full control over it most of the time unless I havent came in like a week. Just practice holding it, and youll eventually get better at it.

In the neighborhood of 30 minutes or more, including position changes. But I think it may be an issue of my PC muscles automatically clenching slightly and involuntarily so I feel less sensation. I'm working on figuring out how I might stop that.
Edit: I'm 25.

Has anyone else just not been able to finish before?.. I did it with the same girl 4!!! Times and was too wrapped up in my thoughts that I wasnt able to finish..

Yesterday we had the topic "women, how long do you want your partner to last?", very intersting, cant find it anymore though. The average woman wants what the average man can do.

2hrs was my record, it wasnt some easy going slow sex either. If you only last 5 minutes you need to slow down almost stop thrusting and just super slowly tease her with it going back and forth almost coming all the way out then go right back in. Do this a few times to keep her in bliss while you rest. When you learn to control it you can go however long you need but just jack hammering a pussy is not gonna do you ny favors.

yeah... most girls i have been with complained that their previous partners took to long to finish.. as long as the girl finishes i doubt she would care if its 5min or 20 min

I've found that I'm fairly correlated to whoever I'm with at the time. If it's a girl that legit just enjoys the act of fucking itself as opposed to getting off and/or can have multiples, then I've been able to go however long we want. If she's a one and done type and can get there quickly then I sometimes find myself holding on for dear life just trying to make it that 5 minutes.

We should last until we come...

I use to last like an hour and a half then I stopped I masturbating and now I can go like 30-40 minutes with a condom.

I was the same at that age.
Now (27) can normally hold off orgasm as long as I need to. Practice at delaying your orgasms when alone, learn to regulate your breathing and relax your body when you're having sex, and if you want to or need to take breaks, use them to change position, lie still for a moment or two, or withdraw and kiss and use your hands/mouth for a bit if you're right near the edge.
(A lot of it, as other commenters have said, depends on the type of sex. If I'm really into it I normally have a lot less control - in those instances it's pointless trying to hold it off as you'll be stopping and starting every few minutes, so just go balls to the wall and enjoy yourself, then keep her entertained until you've recharged and can go for a longer session. Possibly the issue at 18 is that sex is always so desperately exciting you're too psyched up to really exert any decent control. I wouldn't worry about it. As long as you and your partner both have fun, it's supremely unimportant how quickly you come).

Try masturbating 10-20 minutes before you have sex. I will guarantee that will help.

Depends on the partner and relationship and what kind of sex you're having at that particular moment.
A good quicky is a few minutes. A basic roll is about ten to fifteen. If it's hot and heavy a half hour or a bit more. Marathon sex is as long as you can hang, cum and reset to go again.
As for results and how pleasurable it is for her or me. Again it just depends on the mood. I cab say there has been a couple great quickies, and you didn't need or want more. Other times it's interesting to see how many times you can force her to cum over and over until she's cross eyed and passing out.

12 minutes and 43 seconds. Anything either side of that and you're a weirdo.

There's no normal. So slow down and try not to come.
Follow the rule: ladies first.

Not lying or trying to sound cool but every time I get high and fuck I've lasted over 20 minutes. If you have not tried getting high (marijuana) and have sex and work drug testing isn't a factor, I would certainly try it. Sex is incredible while high. Otherwise I would say between 10-20 minutes is normal. Try controlling your excitement (21m)

Ideally, 20-30 minutes. Longer than that and my patience starts wearing out. Typically stamina does get better with age as well as practice. The sexual peak for most men is 21. Sexual peak for women is actually 30.
Quick fix for your problem that females will LOVE (27F here)-- if you feel yourself getting close, pull out and go down on her until you cool down. Go in again. If you get close, pull out and kiss all over her. Its perfectly fine to take breaks, plus women will feel like you're focusing more on them, which will make you a FAR better lover in any woman's eyes than the guys who just fuck for 20 minutes and don't do any of those other things.
Edit: forgot to mention-- if you jerk off before you know you're going to have sex, you'll also last way longer.

I last until my girl is satisfied, then I can cum wherever I want

I love to make a girl cum first so I always make sure that happens (if not us both cumming simultaneously). Ideal sex for me lasts anywhere from 15-20 minutes taking into consideration that we switch positions a lot and incorporate teasing. I recover pretty quickly afterwards as well and I'm always ready for round two.

Generally, the answer to "how long should guys last in bed?" is something on the lines of "long enough for whoever the guy is having sex with to be pleased".
There's no specific limit that says "After seven minutes and twenty-three seconds, the woman is pleased". Some women are happy with a quickie, others want marathon sessions. Play it by ear.

It's all mentally for me. I can go days without cumming and somehow end up lasting 20-30 minutes, and I can masturbate the previous night and last long or cum quickly. All mental games man. If I cum quick, I make sure I'm ready to go for round 2. Not gonna let that ruin the mood.

I've had less than five sexual partners, and all of them ranged from lasting under 5 minutes to completing marathon sex sessions. Once you find a partner that doesn't mind the length of sex but rather the 'quality', I've found that guys calm down a heap :)

You need to work on it to last longer. If the seocnd you start your goal is to finish it will end quickly. Much like having a tug, most guys can rub one out pretty quick if need be as the end is usually the goal.
What this means, is you often need to do the opposite of what you want at times. If hard and slow is when you bust, you need to break it up with faster periods to get your breath back so to speak.
If a girls doing something thats going to finish you off quicker than you want, don't be shy about asking her to stop. Honesty is usually the best policy here.
I can usually space myself out to 20 to 30 mins if I really want to. Although there's still going to be times I'm not making 2 mins. Sex works like dog years anyway, 15 mins of constant shagging seems like a really long time if it's not being broken up. Feel free to take it out, have a rest or do something to her. You don't need to be stimulated 100% of the time.
As guys below have said, it's not necessarilly that important. However what they are glossing over is, it sometimes is to your partner. My wife likes to go for a while. It's not because she wants to be pounded in pornstar fashion for 30 mins. The reality is she prefers other things anyway from a purely sexual point of view. However when we are doing it this is the most intimate she feels with me. Therefore she likes it to go for a while.
So we tend to have more prolonged gentle sessions on a semi regular basis.
Inbetween that I just shag her brains out for 5 mins tops and go to sleep.

It's normal before a tolerance is built up. You'll have to try to get her off before hand and if you do you are golden. Be aware though as teen most young ladies don't know what gets them off so it may be difficult for YOU to get them off. You'd probably get more static if you last too long. You could end up offending the girl, it's happened to me before. Sometimes they feel inferior.

My boyfriend really only lasts 5-10 minutes, but I actually prefer it that way since I don't like long sex sessions. Its just a short time of pure, hot passion and he always makes sure I'm 100% satisfied by the end. And you can always do a second round later ;)

Normally I go 12-15 minutes

 

No idea how long I last, 25/30 minutes or so???

30/45 min on average. A good trick when I was younger was when I felt I was getting close I'd stop and go down on her for a few min then go back at it.

How long should a guy last? As long as she needs him to.

Take some drugs And no I don't mean Viagra Heroin xanax and liquor are all great just not all together.

In my female experience men can learn to control it. I've been with guys who can have a commanding 6+ hour session or finish in 8 strokes or less. In the same day. Back to back. Just takes communication and the right foreplay and sex for what type of experience you want.

Wear a dome. I have the same deal, I've got maybe 10 minutes if I go bareback. With a dome I'm good for a half hour

Yes
Maybe, Maybe not
This one time I literally came the second I put it in. To which I said "Holy Moley." This other time, I was going at it for what felt like hours. Finally gave up with out orgasm.
But normally about 15-30. up to an hour or more second time or if i've been drinking.