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not a guy, but I've known some guys that just don't last long. If you're playing with a partner, just remember you have hands and a mouth. It's totally fine if you don't last long so long as you make sure your partner is happy.

23 M here. I think it's pretty normal. As a teen I used to come within 5 minutes pretty often, but now that almost never happens.
I think I generally last for about 15 minuttes, sometimes more and sometimes less. I don't really notice anymore
As a teen I, just like you, worried A LOT about how long I lasted. i found that this didn't really change before I learned to relax about it.
I have come to the understanding that girls generally prefer 5 minutes of hot and exciting sex over 15 minutes of sex with someone who's holding back and not 100% committed to it.
Just go out and have fun, make sure to enjoy it. The more you practice, the better you will likely get.

Beef up your foreplay. That anticipation on her side can be a powerful force and can help her in the satisfaction department.

on average i can only last 3-5 mins, this has not changed since i was a teen(now in my 30s)
the important thing to remember is that its normal, do not let media and late night infomercials tell you otherwise.

Or other people. Way too many dudes claim to have this ungodly long marathon sex where neither he nor his partner get sore or tired or orgasm, or else their partner orgasms repeatedly and explosively every time. While it may happen once in a blue moon, that can't be common, not without more insensitivity and pain threshold than I care to have.

the thing that pisses me off the most is how you see sex in the movies(and porn for that matter) and it makes you as a man think that is how sex is supposed to be, in the movies/porn you see a couple engaging in long passionate sex that lasts a good length of time, and not only do men think that's realistic sex but women also expect that type of sex and when men don't deliver that hollywood style sex, they see it as a huge let down and want to blame us for not giving them that type of sex.
its unrealistic and it puts a major strain on us to try and achieve that level of activity and whats never really said is how a man feels after not giving his partner that type of sex because nobody told him not to pay too much attention to that hollywood sex. and also they have pills and stuff that the late night infomercials try to sell you false hope in a little white plastic bottle, all of this to try to get you to last longer.
i have started to not care about how long i last and just enjoy it, i used to have anxiety about my performance in bed but after i stopped worrying about my endurance, i have never felt better and if you have a good open minded partner then they will be more understanding and find creative ways to enjoy sex without any high expectations of hollywood sex to ruin the mood. guys its not our fault, we cant control how long we last and we cant control the size of our manhood, when you learn to accept it and enjoy yourself, you will be a happier person.

Oh, I hear you: I know it happens. The key is it's not as though you have the Midas touch of orgasms built into your penis, so that each individual thrust of your eight hour marathon is ecstasy and neither you or your partner ever get bored or sore or tired or satisfied from the thing: it just doesn't play out like that except, as I said, once in a blue moon. In my experience there's little knowing why it all worked so well one time but not the next. That's all I was getting at.

Same here. It honestly depends on how horny I am, but I typically last anywhere from 20-45 min. But quite often I only last 5 min. I don't think I've ever actually lasted only 30 seconds though. lol
I'm honestly getting sick of that joke. "HURR DURR guys only last 30 seconds amiriteee??" No. I usually last much longer than that.

That's actually fairly normal. If you look at actual studies vs self reported facts. I've seen someone claim to have sex for 30 hours straight. Everyone called him out on it but he insisted it was true. And he said lasting 2 hours to him was premature ejaculation.
The 3-5 minutes is pure intercourse. It doesn't include foreplay nor time changing positions and what not. In fact some studies have found that many women actually think around 7 minutes of intercourse is ideal.
(Of course to that everyone likes to chime in with "7 minutes? Wtf? Wow, I feel good about myself and my lasting an hour!" It's very similar to "Average penis size is 5.5 inches". "5.5 inches? Wow, I thought my 11 inch penis was average but now I feel good about it.")

Yeah honestly it's just very surprising to me, but I'm willing to admit it is true. Sometimes I really want to cum and I have to slow down or change positions, but with a little self control I usually last around 15 mins and I thought it was pretty normal, it's the time I need to make sure I'm frustrated enough to have a great orgasm.

Thereabouts anyway, if we're talking solid, quick, super-stimulating thrusting. For me I can do roughly 6 or so, though I honestly can't say for sure without timing it. IELT scores tend to sit around 5-6 minutes, if I'm understanding what that scoring system involves:

Thank you for saying this! I think this is a general misconception about how long a man should last based upon heroic tales of marathon sex. I've lasted more than an hour before, but that type of thing is definitely not for every girl, it usually ends with them uncomfortably raw. Even for those who like sex marathons, it's definitely a once in a blue moon type of thing. These performances are a complete fluke for me as well as a man, so it's not a sustainable expectation anyway.
Almost every time, I last anywhere from thirty seconds to ten minutes at most. However, I've gotten to know what makes my gf tick so well that she is almost always already cumming within a few thrusts from the arousal created in foreplay.
I totally rock this girl's world in every way, and thankfully, both of our stamina expectations are realistic and reasonable.

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this is as good a place to pipe in as any. I last anywhere from 1- 1000 min, usually closer to 3-20. I've met very very few women that like it very long. By far, my lovers have prefered fingers/oral. sounds like you and your foreplay. what I've found is that after making my girl cum a few times with fingers/mouth, she's going to cum from being fucked in no time.

unless I slow down and really try not to cum

Key phrase. Most guys can cum fairly quickly if they are really turned on, unless they make an effort to hold back when they feel like they are getting close. Slow down, or hold still for a bit. You can usually make things last longer, but you have to have some self control and good communication with your partner.
My SO and I are in our mid 20s and I'm the first girl who he's tried slowing things down with, because I mentioned it and we practised. We've extended our PIV times SIGNIFICANTLY and I couldn't be happier.

I can go for a very long time but, now, I understand that's not always a good thing so I make it a point to not go too much over 15-20 minutes.
Tips for lasting longer: - pull out and change positions every now and then - eat her out beforehand (or after taking a pause from coitus) - change the rhythm, staying steady for too long doesn't only attract Worms but also gets you to your end-point quicker (e.g. if you're behind her you can do a few strokes and then, stop, give her a hug while staying completely inside her but not thrusting)
That's all I can think about for now.

its not unusual for dudes to actually last longer during sex than masturbation, especially after they initially start having sex. if youve learned how to jerk yourself off to perfection, it can take awhile for a partner to learn how to get you off.

I don't last very long either but from my experience it's just about enjoying the moment with each other. As far as making her come goes: I always try to make sure that I've at least made her come once during foreplay so that it's less of an issue if you can't make her come during PIV.

Clock starts at the oral. So double down on that. And your like 7 10mins(maybe) in and then slowy bring her to the bone zone.

Foreplay, buildup, and you shouldn't have sex like in porn. In fact, less porn.

I last about 10 minutes and i don't cum until my girl cums but trust me i can cum in five minutes.
Majority of my girl friends prefer a good 5-7 minutes of hot freaky sex

35 yo male here, been married for 14 years. The key is to know how to get your partner off. My wife and I usually have actual PIV sex for around 10 minutes. That's usually after a few minutes of foreplay and is the "norm" for us if it is the first time for the day.
I have 2 pieces of advice that will make it so that it matters less how long you can last:

1. Learn how to use your tongue.
2. Learn where the clitoris is and for God's sake, learn how to properly stimulate it during intercourse. You never see that on porn or from Hollywood, but it's a game changer.

As a general rule, she orgasms at least once before I do and then I can finish as quickly as I'm able.
Learn what your partner likes, and she won't mind how long you last.